I just read a glossy good-news piece that said on-ramp moms typically receive offers just a few months after initiating a job hunt. Toward the end there was a brief quote- almost an afterthought- that the longest part of the job search may be the internal piece.
Ah, the internal piece. It involves answering question like- what type of job can I take on that will give me internal peace? But it is not as simple as figuring out the type of work to pursue,this time around it is more about finding a job that will allow work-life balance. What if my new job is incredibly stressful or mundane? Or what if I love it so much that my family seems stressful and mundane by comparison?
The Big Questions can stop a mom in her tracks, but it is worth searching for answers. Benjamin Hoff sums it up this way in The Tao of Pooh:
How can you get very far,
If you don't know Who You Are?
How can you do what you ought,
If you don't know What You've Got?
And if you don't know Which to Do
Of all the things in front of you,
Then what you'll have when you are through
Is just a mess without a clue
Of all the best that can come true
If you know What and Which and Who.
Grab a notepad and pen and, like me, indulge yourself with an outrageously expensive cup of coffee, glass of wine, decadent dessert or whatever gets your mojo flowing and answer these difficult questions. If you can do this on your own you will save big bucks on a career counselor. On the other hand, if you feel stuck then consider engaging a job coach, career counselor or therapist to help you sort through Who you are, What you skills you have got even after years at home, and Which type of work to pursue; it will be a good investment of time and money.
Report back next week.
posted by Kim Moldofsky @ 9:07 PM